Have you taken a purposeful pause today? Consider this one! Take a moment to pause with me and consider ways you can value yourself more.
Many of my coaching clients often struggle to see the value they bring to the world around them. If they did, they wouldn’t be afraid to pursue their passions, charge what they’re worth, ask for the sale, or step into the difference maker shoes they’ve been called to fill. Your life changes when you can see yourself as you really are: brilliant, wise, strong, influential, loved and deserving. My clients’ struggles with money, relationships, fulfillment & purpose, happiness and health radically shift when they begin to value themselves more. Honestly, learning to appreciate and honor myself has been my own growing edge, and it is something I affirm daily.
Why do we struggle with acknowledging our unique strengths and value? Is it, as one article I read stated, because we base our value on materialistic indicators like the car we drive, the neighborhood we live in, our job title, education, or what we’ve accomplished in life? I’m sure that flawed definition of self-worth is a factor, but the biggest source of our struggle is our own fear. And, Marianne Williamson states this best in A Return to Love, “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
She’s right you know? This week, let’s value how amazing we really are. When you value your unique gifts and talents, no matter what others think or say, amazing things begin to unfold.
THINK ABOUT IT
- Make a list of what you think is valuable about you. Take an inventory of what you offer in your personal and professional relationships. No one will value you more than you value yourself.
- Ask a close friend, colleague, or family member what they value about you, and then add it to your list.
- Every day this week, journal three things you value about yourself or three ways you added value to somebody’s life that day. Notice your value and ways to add more value.
- Take care of yourself — eat well, sleep well, check in with how you feel and what you need. People who value themselves take care of themselves too.
- If valuing yourself feels awkward (and for some people it does), ask yourself why this makes you uncomfortable. Your insight alone is, well, valuable.